The right reception for conception

Getting pregnant is not just a physical affair.

Story: Saskia Roell

Eating healthy foods is essential preparation for your body to conceive. But it’s not the whole picture. Your physical, emotional, and mental bodies work seamlessly together. If you are eating too much junk food, it can create hormonal imbalances. However, if you are relentlessly depriving yourself of foods you love, you are living in a guilty, unhappy mood much of the time. I believe getting pregnant should be fun, not a chore.

Fertility is a mind-body affair. Stress affects hormones, not to mention mood and thoughts. Scientific research shows that when mind-body work is included with intrauterine insemination (IUI) and in-vitro fertilization (IVF), the success rate goes from 10-20 percent to 42-52 percent. Of women who did natural conception and a mind-body program, 55 percent were pregnant within six months, and 95 percent got pregnant within two years.

Here are steps to ensure you have a healthy body and mind so conception is a wonderful journey you never forget:

Eat healthy but have fun

Summer is the perfect time to get your body in shape for your baby. Food has a tremendous effect on your health. It’s important to eat lots of organic fruits, vegetables, lean meat and fish. Taking good supplements can help, but don’t go overboard.

Trying to get pregnant destroys your life balance and makes you feel your life is on hold. Your relationship with your husband can be tough because nothing’s fun anymore, and lovemaking is a chore. If you have a glass of wine, you feel guilty and beat yourself up. And you always think you’re not doing enough.

When I see a woman who feels guilty because she’s had a sip of wine, I see a stressed-out woman who gets cranky on date night with her husband. Getting pregnant is not just a physical affair. It’s important to apply the 80/20 rule. Eat healthily, and every now and then, enjoy something you love.

Have your guilty pleasure. Your baby wants a happy mom. When you are happier, your husband is happier. You’re more attracted to him. You see other pregnant women and think, “That’s me!”

You begin to believe, behave, and embody your fertile energy. You are in “conceive mode.” Your body can now open up to conceive.

Change your thoughts now

We have 60,000 thoughts every day, with 80 percent of them being negative. Worry creates a contraction in the body. Change your thoughts. For example, change “What if I am too old?” to “What if I am the perfect age to conceive?” My client, Sarah, released her deep fear of miscarriage, changed her daily thoughts, and became pregnant at 43 in four months.

As a certified clinical 
hypnotherapist and specialist in somatic healing and fertility therapy, I want every woman out there to know there is hope. If you have unexplained infertility, there is almost always a reason—not a medical reason, an emotional one.

When I work with clients, we do mind-body work to release the fear keeping them from conception. They enter an emotionally centered, happy state. They change negative self-talk and begin to welcome their babies home. This is why seven out of 10 of my private clients become pregnant.

Women ages 35 to 45 get pregnant naturally, usually within two to six months. If you change your thoughts, you mind will change. Your body can relax and let go. Conception becomes easier.

Reconnect with your body

A lot of women are focused on what’s wrong with their bodies. Connect to your body again. Before you go to bed, and just after you wake up, place one hand over your heart and think about someone you truly love. And then place your other hand over your belly and imagine that same love and give it to your belly, to your womb.

Now you can start connecting both hands from your heart to your belly. Do this for a week, and you’ll notice a shift. You’ll start to connect more to your body.

Your baby wants to come to you

Feed your body healthy food and feed your mind healthy, positive thoughts. If you can feel that little soul sitting on your shoulder, talk to him or her; welcome your baby into your life. My wish for you is to be a happy mom.

If you are trying to conceive and would like a little help, find out the No. 1 reason that blocks your baby from coming to you. Go to getpregnantnow.com.